The Right Fit to be Happy

Finding Mr Right.....or whatever the case may be....is never as easy as it seems in the movies.  And just when you think you've found him, the world throws something new at you.  I turn 26 in a very fast moving two and a half months and as my close circle is all around the same age we've all gotten to a place of wanting to understand what's out there for us.  Be it jobs, money, love, entrepreneurship, or disaster.  We, like many this age just want to know what were walking into.

The subject was brought up by Smith*(names changed to protect the innocent) that he found himself being okay with family life over drinking and video games, cause he found the right one.  Where as a lot of others are still in a relationship but out doing the same trifling things they did as a single person.  But there's the ticket Smith found the right one.  Which made me of course mentally evaluate my past "one" Jimbo*, and well to glaze over that blip on the radar...he wasn't satisfied with just being at home.  At the time, as humans do, I questioned why Jimbo wasn't happy in our relationship, what could I do to make it work.  (Jill Scott's story line from "Why Did I Get Married") but realizing now, nothing I could have done would have made it work, he wasn't the right man for me and I not the right woman for him.



And there's nothing wrong with that.  Sometimes the person you cling so tightly to is just not the right one for you, and its never going to feel 100% because something will always be missing.

There's nothing wrong with that you just have to let it go, and find the right man for you.  Spending eternity trying to force this unfulfilling relationship to work will only end up with two people at the end of their ropes....stuck because its just too late to change the past...

Trust me, I'm NOT an expert.  Just a girl coming into her own as a woman and evaluating life through new eyes, and with new inputs from people like Smith(who you will hear more from).

And the same can be said for your relationships as with your job.  Happy is success.

Just like with your job/career.  if you aren't happy everyday you spend at it will make you miserable because its not the right job for you.  it might be the right job career wise, but not spiritually and emotionally.  Speaking from my own experience, job happiness fell into my lap, heart and soul at Qualia.  Without it I doubt I would have taken the steps to become a newer version of me.  I wont say better but newer.....Jessica 2.0, shinier, brighter and more resilient than the old version.

Every step you take towards happy will prime your life for pure and total bliss.  If you're miserable at work, then get on a bus home and have a disgruntled, the world sucks aura around you the proverbial Mr Right might walk right by in search of a happier situation.  On that same sense if you suffer in a relationship where you don't understand why he can never lift you up and be shining light on your pedestal, and you carry that around potential clients might seek somewhere else to turn; they may not even know what's happening in your personal life but the energy clouds you.

That funny tingle that tells you to walk away from a business deal...never a full reason why but something is just not right....

Its all about finding what FITS your puzzled life.  And as we all learned from childhood...no matter how hard you push, the wrong piece will never fit entirely.  It may find space to fill the whole but the entire picture is ruined, changed, damaged.  Not the way I imagine anyone would want their life to be.

This was a long one folks....

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